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How to stop jumping to conclusions
It's easy to jump to the worst conclusions, especially when you've been through the worst. Everyone becomes a suspect for our fear and old wounds release the puss that makes us emotionally chlaustrophobic. An ex cheated on you, your current boyfriend is consistently running late, a best friend was spreading lies about you, what are all these secret meetings your other friends are having without you, your boss wants an impromptu meet, your nerves have gone into over drive. Have more than one conclusion you jump to.
Conclusions are such final things. When we consistently make the wrong ones we keep ourselves paralytic with fear and paranoia. We begin to separate ourselves from people were close to. Making snap judgements whilst treading on the eggshells of our mind. Accept this, no matter what someone's intention, agenda, or feeling is, you will rise above it like a phoenix.Maybe it's gut instinct that has the wheels of your mind spinning in motion, there's something about that person you just dont trust? Trust you. Trust your own strength. You've come back from negative people and sinister agenda's many times before. Focus on giving your time to people you do trust, your attention to people who you do believe respect you enough not to violate such sweet raport. Don't waste your time judging to conclusions, you'll either end up crazy, mistrustful, or creating a wide berth between you and people there need be no complaint with. Whatever they do, is their problem. Focus on you, your life is for living, is it really worth wasting it on taking notes. I know, i've wasted a lot of time only to find out, sometimes the conclusions were either wrong, or if they were right.....realising i should have focussed my energy on something else.If you suspect somethings wrong...ask? Passive aggressiveness will get you nowhere. Face it, jumping to conclusions wont make anyone happy, especially not you.
Feeling left out? As though your different.....one things for sure your not a Martian right now. Who knows maybe Martians are actually cool. Youre allowed to feel different and experience that platelet shift of not being like those around you. Guess what? Connection is needed.Venture out seek like minded positive and ambituos people. Dressed up,or dressed down, remind yourself that you are something special.Worthy of love and companionship. Meeting new people can be exciting, it's not always plain scary. Seeing what you have in common with them, inviting them for dinners, parties, keeping them up to date, and hearing their good news. That's fun. We all have moments when we feel left out, or the people who knew us, begin to feel like aliens in our carefully padded world.Talk to the people you love and care about explaining that you feel slightly estranged. If it's not being able to find the time to keep up, make time....there's always a fold somewhere. Reach out
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Lunchbox+millionaire+ Are you life shipwrecked with no clue which path to take? I call it the vasco da gamma life visit, where everything seems to be shelter skelter, and you find yourself picking bodies apparent, from the chaos. I.e Ex boyfriends and ex best friends, do not check out the lonely hearts column just yet. The universe is telling you something. Human beings are mobile and yet your life is at a stand still, because of the choices you made and the people you invested in. Do not allow yourself to be sucked into an emotional black hole, we invest in the characters that we do because of who we were at the time. Yet you are constantly evolving metamorphosing into a self whose skin you undeniably feel comfortable in, whose ideas you respect, and whose dreams you can believe in. Invest in yourself, in building the trust back up, love yourself, and believe in your potential. Whether you were los